Does it just feel like old friends hanging out, or is there an atmosphere? It sets the stage for romance — without you. The guy might want to wait a bit before starting anything with you out of courtesy to his friend. If you feel uncomfortable and your partner is not transparent then re-examine the relationship- you may have different views and lifestyles. Make sure you get your needs met by more than one woman. Think back — how did your relationship with your ex end? Good friends with exes who talked and texts in a secretive way then to meet up together? It is courtesy to talk and find out what their thoughts are. And obviously, there are reasons why he chose you as a romantic partner.
Its completely normal to be friends with your exes if they were good, caring people and if you let go of your anger. However, like Evan wrote, either you trust him or you get out of the relationship. I believe it is so disrespectful and anyone who just says that people who do mind are jealous ans insecure , are just crazy. Have you any idea how much that hurts, her fear and mistrust. Not if those sins will get you thrown in the slammer. Not only might you have to deal with , but you may have also lost one of your good friends. Her tits were so unreal, they were like something out of an anime cartoon.
She agrees but is willing to break it off with him now as we seem to have this crazy attraction for one another. I even wrote to my ex on Facebook today. Women are more likely than men to foster relationships quickly and to have a difficult time ending these relationships. You need to be honest with this new woman in your life and with your friend. And that someone might just be your best friend, the person who has been there all along. Hopefully the new guy won't be put in a situation of having to decide between you and your ex, but if that does happens, fingers crossed it comes out in your favor. I just recently told my boyfriend that I had no problem with exes being friends as he knew about exes of mine but there is one of his that would be a problem because she will not accept friendship.
I personally feel that out if respect for the new gf that either the boyfriend should not be secretive about his ex and be comfortable talking to his gf about her because there is nothing to hide or she should be out of the picture. Deceit or being non-tranpsarent is not a good thing. I should have put the signs together, but love can be blind, right? I try to call to talk but he ignores my call…shocker…that is the kind to be leery of. Sure, at the time, I was reeling, and wishing things could be different. At the same time others have the right to live by their values. Be up front with their friendship and if he is going to go out to lunch with her, then tell his girlfriend. I feel your commentary and response to the poster and about this matter to be rude and misogynistic.
We have so much trust with each other that I let him sleep with his girl best friend and he let me sleep with my boy best friend just as long as we have other friends with us. We are both nurses and we have made a living taking care of other people but we take care of each other nevertheless. If your partner is seeing an ex regularly, it's opportunity for more, and jeopardy for your relationship. Or if you do, make sure you tell your friend about it first. If the guy spends time with your ex without you, do not ask him how your ex is doing.
I agree 100 percent with the original responder. You may very well come to realize that they are, as he says, not interested in each other. So why would we just hand that over without reason to believe they will hold it as valuable as we do? Then one night, you go out to dinner or drinks with your friend and his ex-girlfriend who is now your girl. Oh, did I mention this house guest also happens to be my ex? It is unlikely that the majority of human beings trust one another right away, and with fair reason. You even boast about their achievements and share their amusing anecdotes with the same enthusiasm as if they were your own.
To tell someone not to be friends with their ex is going to cause you problems. You took a chance for love and this is the consequence you have to accept. Deceitful or secretive behavior inhibits trust from developing, and damages trust that has already developed. I have been the ex and reacted in the same way. Ever hear the saying trust what you see not what you hear. How is your partner's behavior? People can be totally unrealistic about trust, yet everyone is different and has different experiences and we are not all saints.
I think the bottom-line is if any guy expects a woman to trust him instantly he is pretty darn egocentric for a start! In fact it would be so much nit a problem that he would never ever have to ask me to do because I had already done so. Though this ex of his is said to have moved on and has a boyfriend am always so bothered by their ongoings and even my guy wanting me to be friends with his ex drives me nuts. Like no man ever slept with an ex when he and the current girlfriend have a falling out. The text was from his ex-girlfriend arranging to meet him for lunch on Friday. Also, be prepared for him to not want to get involved with his buddy's ex at all.