Now I also know more about his ex-girlfriend, the only girl he has ever been in a relationship with. He calls her the best girl in the world, and loves her more then I can think of. When I was on those dates, I just thought how much better it would be if I was here with my friend, not with this guy. Tell him exactly what you wrote here. Mauro Grigollo The difference between being just a boyfriend and being a best friend in addition means being able to turn to each other with the tough, embarrassing, scary, smelly, unbelievable stuff. I never experienced anything like that, but my ex cheated on me over months til I found out, so it's not like I don't have my fair share of baggage.
He needs time to learn and to think about what has lead him to where he is. If you want a family you can't afford to dilly-dally around waiting for this guy to suddenly change. She has been and would be with a man though, she finds beauty in everyone. Please report comments that you feel are in violation of these guidelines to keep discussions constructive. He has promised he will always be there for me. Edit: I should also probably make it clear that we all know how I feel.
He got very serious, sat down and said that this- what we're doing right now- is as far as it gets. He might know how you feel, but before you give up on him thinking you've been friendzoned, have you actually, recently talked to him? You can tell him anything without fear You know he won't judge or jump to conclusions or use it against you in the future. Sometimes it feels like it's just you and your boyfriend existing in a shared bubble. He knows this upsets me, so we generally act as if this guy doesn't exist. This chemical is very powerful.
The gross things you do don't matter You'll wear the same sweatpants all weekend and he won't even notice. We have mutually expressed that we have feelings for each other. Do I just keep on like I have been? It definitely makes family dinners more interesting. Anyway after I realized that it was really just for him I thought I could just keep it to myself but that sure as hell didn't work cause it was driving me cray and making me really upset so I told one of my closest girl friends and she convinced me to tell him and I did and he was surprisingly really cool with it. The full rules for the subreddit can be found on our , please familiarize yourself with them. I asked if he still had feelings for me, and he hasn't answered me yet. Â But something within me changed when I saw her this time around.
When I got back this guy that I had been pretty good friends with before expressed interest in me. It's always good to know the reality but than face it. I was best man at his wedding, I dunno, if hes happy kissing you he must be really comfortable with you. He makes me happy and cheers me up, but has a girlfriend who is truly in love with him. It was a visceral reaction and it took me a while to fully understand it. I just give her simple gifts every now and again, just to remind her, but nothing over the top, just a flower, or simple note.
You won't wash your hair even while showering together. Same goes for the food on each other's plates or the hat on his head or the t-shirts to sleep in. Use these conversations to turn the friendship into romance and sexual excitement. Even if he said he couldnt be in a relationship with you he sounds like he would be understanding and supportive. We've all known each other for 7 years. He felt like he was her babysitter, and trapped at the same time.
The idea of being with him is probably better than the reality would be. Im sure youll make the right decision. But anyways, i can relate to your friend. I keep telling myself that I can maybe go back to just considering him a normal friend, maybe if I go on more dates. Whereas my husband would push me away whenever I get close to him. I suggest that if you really love someone, grab hold with both hands and don't let go. Wait you mean you are going to waste the precious years you have left pining for a man who will most likely not live his wife within your life-time? So okay, I get it, you're traumatized, but aren't we all? Change usually needs a catalyst, though.
I can't believe I could find anyone else who fits with me as well as he does. The same thing is happening to me. When you have a best friend of the opposite sex, the line between romance and friendship is very thin. That was nothing serious though. We have an incredibly strong friendship. Even as she hugged me that night, all I could feel was her attractive body against mine. Her friend had a girlfriend at the time.
Who knows, they may land right in your arms and it sounds like you want to be there if they do to catch and embrace them. Humans like to place all the blame on the other party in conflict or heartbreak but the biggest favor you can do for yourself is to be honest with yourself. You cannot control what happens to you, only the way you react to it. Result was, I lost the one person I really feel I was meant to be with. If he cheats with you, he'll cheat on you. To save the details I was in the same position, to tell her and maybe lose my best friend and the only one I ever trusted and talked too, or watch the one I love marry someone else, when I dont believe she is truly happy. He stayed with me this weekend.
I wish you the best and hope to find out how it goes! Getting desperate here really need advice. I just can't seem to get myself to ask him, and when I did, he had a girlfriend. He cares enough not to let you get the best of yourself and he isn't afraid to intervene when your thoughts can't be trusted. Though it ended with me cutting the contact, I am now talking to him again. I wish I could find it to post here. But, then I think what the point is. He def wants companionship and I even think he's clingier than me, he wants to spend time with me all the time, but at the same time he says he thinks relationships are stupid and that he never wants one again.